It’s All in the Risk: Question is, When It Comes to your Everyday Hopes and Dreams, Do You Want to Risk it All?


Ask a bricklayer how to build a house and the answer will most likely be, “One brick at a time.”

Ask a dressmaker how to design an evening gown and the reply will no doubt be a resounding, “One stitch at a time.”

And as for that famous old adage “How do you get to Carnegie Hall?”


The point is it’s hard to argue the facts.

So then how is it when it comes to our Everyday Hopes and Dreams we continue to give in to the common myth that it’s gotta be all or nothing, sink or swim, now or never?

Why is it that we harbor this fiery sense of urgency to―git er done?

Believe it or not the answer to these looming questions can be found in and of all places, a Tootsie Pop. Or should I say in the devouring manner by which we’re hell bent to wolf down the tasty little treats.

Case and point: “How many licks does it take to get to the Tootsie Roll center of a Tootsie Pop?”

Give up?

No shame, you’re not alone.

Because y’see according to the 1969 television commercial which originally asked the now infamous question, “The world may never know.”

And granted, while not being wise to the number of tongue lashings necessary to arrive at the chocolaty goodness of a Tootsie Pop may not be a calamity in and of itself, the bigger issue is that this type of dine and dash mindset is also characteristic of how we as a breakneck paced culture have a propensity to approach and/or attack other tasks as well.

I mean think about it. If you’re chasing down a dream and you had a hand-it-over-now button chances are you’d be hammering down on that thing like a Morse code operator on crack.

Why? Because just like that chocolaty goodness you know something desirable is coming your way―you can taste it! And if landing it that much sooner means biting off a bit more than you oughta then so be it.

Again, in the case of a Tootsie Pop it’s not that big of a deal. After all even if you choose to deliberately disregard TP protocol you still get to reap the chewy rewards.

In the case of your Everyday Hopes and Dreams, however, that type of ignorance; that undue lack of patience can ultimately prove disastrous.

Meaning if things don’t keep moving along in a timely fashion you could become frustrated.

Or worse yet…give up altogether.

And that I’m sure you’ll agree is a risk you simply can’t afford to take.

So, what’s the correct answer?

What’s the proper way to pursue your Everyday Hopes and Dreams?

That needless to say is debatable.

Because on one side you have those who sing the praises of “Jump and the net will appear.”

On the other are those who’ll adamantly argue that you should “Test the waters.”

So again, which is it?

Head first or heedfulness?

Well…it depends.

Cuts like a knife vs. a fork in the road

First off let me just say that if you happen to be reading this as a starry-eyed youngster fresh outta academia with a crackpot idea in mind, or a resourceful twenty-something with little or no liability to speak of, I for one strongly encourage you to go for the gusto. I say blaze that trail for all it’s worth.

Why not right?

So what if ya fall flat on your face. So what if things don’t “work out.”

Whada ya got to lose?

Why not risk it all?

As for the rest of us, however, what (if any) is the criteria for dream chasing?

What are some of the real life alternatives (but not necessarily prerequisites) for following your heart?

  • It’s been said that pain and tragedy can strike in the blink of an eye. That it can cut so deep and be so devastating that it can literally make you ponder the very meaning of life, if not your very own existence.

Obviously this could prove to be a pivotal/opportune time for anyone.

  • Epiphanies and/or aha moments also have a tendency to show up unexpected and outta the blue. And they too (albeit in a much kinder light) can get you to see things from an entirely new perspective.

Sorta like flipping on a switch.

  • Uneasiness on the other hand has a way of creeping up on you. Same goes for comfort, complacency, and incessant longing (aka what if?). And although these manifestations rarely if ever pack the same punch as personal loss or orgasmic insight they can over time begin to weigh pretty heavily on your psyche.

Sorta like a rock in your shoe (aka a pesky pain in the butt).

Clearly these are just a handful of common scenarios that might get you to thinking about shifting gears or changing course. And as can be expected each comes with its own degree of emotional impact and urgency, as well as, a varying level of risk.

The good news is…whichever pace/path you choose you’ve made the right choice.


Because anytime you get knocked down and choose to get back up you’ve made the right choice.

Anytime you refuse to call it quits and opt instead to forge ahead you’ve made the right choice.

Anytime you choose to make a commitment of any kind…you’ve made the right choice.

How you go about it…that’s up to you.

It’s your call to make.

It’s your hand to play.

Just remember, pedal to the metal or at a slow and steady clip it’s still a building process.

It’s still one day/one step at a time.

In the end the aim is to make the best of each and every day and to continue taking those steps on a regular and consistent basis.

Because when you do you simply can’t help but walk away a better, stronger, and more confident person for it.

So once again, what’s the correct answer?

What’s the right way to pursue your Everyday Hopes and Dreams?

With everything you’ve got.

And no, that doesn’t mean you need to risk everything you have or have worked for thus far.

It just means that whatever life happens to throw your way you remain true to yourself.

That you “stay the course.”

Whatever that means.

Whatever that entails.

Whatever that demands.

By whichever way you happen to see fit.

See ya May 1st

Till then, keeep it up.

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